What does Proverbs 27:16 mean?

The prior verse noted the frustration of a nagging spouse (Proverbs 27:15). Each "drip" of complaint, argument, or annoyance might be minor. But when there's a constant flow of negativity and irritation, the situation becomes unbearable. The terminology used here is literally female, but the principle applies just as well to husbands as to wives.

Here, Solomon (Proverbs 25:1) notes how difficult this is to stop, for the one being annoyed. Although many people would like to restrain the wind before it causes damage or ruins a day's plans, it cannot be stopped. The wind and weather must "stop themselves," so to speak, since they don't obey mortal men. This general idea plays into Jesus' miracle of commanding the wind on the Sea of Galilee (Luke 8:24–25).

In another analogy, Solomon also compares restraint of a nagging spouse to grabbing a handful of oil. No matter how hard one tries, oil just slips out between the fingers. A person can try to force a spouse to stop bickering and needling, but the task is impossible. Unless the other person decides to change, the situation isn't likely to improve. In contrast, constructive disagreement can lead to great benefit (Proverbs 27:17).